The Silent Leaf

 

 

 Two trees are planted in our simple yard.  They are positioned prominently as remembrances to our deceased mothers.  Knowing we are on the downside of our lives, it is hoped that these trees will display the beauty  of God for generations to come. Yes, it was our way of sharing memorials of beloved mothers.We see this as a  simple and meaningful gesture.  Plant the trees, nurture them in the early years, and nature takes over.

 For any species to survive in the Great Plains is a miracle.  For two trees to battle and endure the harsh climes is amazing. Twenty four months ago, we stared out the kitchen window admiring the latest  6” of overnight snow fall.  As always, the sturdy backyard tree survived the snow, ice, and 40 mph winds blowing south from the Canadian provinces. Mid winter and the soybean fields are now acres of dormant brown splotches. Falling burnt orange needles from the stand of  blue spruce  trees creates a protective bed for rabbits, squirrels, to hide during the arrival of inevitable  blizzards.

As usual, Mother nature awakens us from the dreaminess of  superficial  observations.  A furled, fatigued singular leaf catches our attention.  It remains attached to a narrow limb  on Grandma Gress’ otherwise barren maple tree.  Strong! The leaf hangs on with a determination reminiscent of Grandma.What is the message? Each wintry morning, steaming Colombian coffee in hand, we  gather at the window to see if our friend remains.  Yes, December, January, February it is still attached.

 What is the message? Is there a message?

We struggle to interpret what are  Grandma Gress and God saying? Is she  reminding us about her lifetime of strength, perseverance, indomitable religious faith.? She played such a major role in establishing our life values. Regrettably, on a gray  March morning we jointly notice that the leaf has disappeared. Our friend has slipped away silently into the darkness of a frigid winter night.  Sadness envelopes our hearts.  Will the leaf return?

 This winter has seen 19 days of unrelenting snow in the first 23 days of December.  Temperatures are 6 or more degrees below normal.  Snow storms seem endless.  Beautiful white mounds become a curse when we daily grit our teeth and feel the brunt of early morning arctic cold. We apprehensively part the lace curtains and check to see if the driveway and deck are again covered with more of the white fluffy stuff.  The surrounding forests and fields are again void of leaves and green color.

 God takes us by the hands and leads us to the kitchen window to enjoy the beauty of His snow covered landscape. There it is again, a singular leaf clinging onto  the same tree.  An identical twin of the furled brown leaf from 2 years ago, it beckons for our attention.  Again!Like its predecessor, this fragile gift of nature survives the impossible forces of harsh winter storms. The leaf faces us each time we look out the window.  Is it smiling at us? Is this real or a product of our imaginations? A blessing?  Fervent prayers for healing and perseverance have been heard and answered by God again and again as we have endured medical and other challenges in the 24 months since first being greeted by our leafy visitor. The leaf seems to reach out and encourages us to continue to  pray, to have faith. 

A freak of nature? Accidental, just a coincidence?  We believe those with little faith may have a difficult time explaining away this remarkable happenstance. It is time for us to pray, to listen, to meditate.  We have been blessed.  May we welcome the spirit that rides with the leaf back into our lives and tell us what is wanted.  Now is the time for us to  sacrifice.  We remain convinced that this is more than a coincidence!

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Solitude – A single leaf by Christopher Flees.  Used with permission.

 

 

 

 

I PRAY FOR YOU EVERYDAY

Racks of greeting cards for almost any occasion prominently line

the gift shop’s entrance way.  Clever sketches of flowers, clouds, and dancing

angels leap off the pages. Mundane, simplistic phrases hoping to appealto the pride we have for our mothers are written in computer generated script. Somehow, somewhere the cards belie an emptiness.  The phraseology resoundsof automated coldness generated by a software program.  Perhaps it is the need to appeal to everyone, everywhere that the uniqueness, feeling quality has been lost? Where are the emotive feelings? The prospective buyer flipping through the cards is lost in a cavern of mindless thoughts. 

 There is an audience unreached by this commercialization. For many years we search for just the right card and the perfect token of our love.  Words don’t quite capture our thoughts. Now mother is gone.  She has been laid to rest and sits at the right hand of our Lord watching over us as she has always done.How do we thank our now deceased mothers? Do we recognize her for the life she dedicated to us?  The personification of the Virgin Mother is gone forever.  Pictures hung on our office walls last a lifetime.. Even as years dim our recollection of her voice, the scent of her perfume,  her gentle touch.

 An everlasting tribute is hugging those we love the way our mother hugged us.  Even in her final days, each embrace carried the life long message of protection, love and commitment.  Our mothers watch and pray for us into eternity.  We are always her child. Let us pause to hear the voices of every season as the muses herald the beginning of another cycle of life.God’s messengers whisper to us, if we listen. These tender sonnets are our mother’s talking with us. Perhaps it is the last sounds in the night time stillness we hear before embracing and holding close the one we love.  A prayer of each mother’s own making. A conversation mothers often have with the Creator to keep her children safe and happy.  

One of my mother’s last words “I pray for you every day” hangs in the air forever. I can see her laying on her death bed reaching out to ensure I know how much she has cared. She is omnipotent knowing that by passing along her life long prayer that t accept this lyrical phrase as a necessary guidepost helping me to ask for divine intervention in being a Christian parent. 

The phrase “I pray for you every day” surpasses human understanding.  A few simple, beautiful words which mean so very much as they act as a connector of  two generations when we recite them aloud each and every day. 

May God bless our  mothers.

 

 

RETIREMENT QUESTION – WHO AM I?

Our recent blog about Inner Peace and retirement created reactions –

feedback,stimulating conversation, and food for thought.  With the permission

of a friend who reuested anonymity I’d like to reflect on his observations.

A long time friend, author, and outwardly transparent friend  in Canada

shared…my reason, the sole rationale for retirement is “ So I can find out

who I am”.

 

  WOW!!

 

He concludes that  he is emotionally drained with the seemingly endless

and boring trivia  of the daily grind;, and most of all… complying with society’s

continuing expectations.   Not his innermost  expectations, but those of 

society.

Fortunate to be successful  in many arenas  financial, professional, artistic , he

nevertheless feels that life has  been  primarily a reaction to  circumstances

beyond his control.

 He rides the waves  of  identifying ,seizing, and profiting from  business

opportunities. The ability to  comprehend the complexities of   financial

spreadsheets and negotiating contracts  is renown in the business community.

 A shining  example of servant  leadership, employees respect

and applaud his character.  They believe  he provides security for them now

and  the indefinite future .

 Religion – oh  yes, he laughingly admits to passively attending  church

regularly- a societal obligation., a place to make and maintain contacts and

keep the family happy.

 Meanwhile, he has never taken   time to pause, to reflect, to take charge of his

own life.  A dedicated family man, social volunteer, and entrepreneur , life

speeds by at a mind numbing  hectic pace.

One recent winter morning, sipping hot coffee and looking out over the snow

covered great plains  that are visible from his palatial hillside estate near

Calgary, Canada, a cold realization caused  shuttering to the core.

A question hung in the air  : Who am I?

Sixty six years old.  Respected and indeed beloved by many

in his community.. blessed with a  unique capacity to be a “listener”, provide

an empathetic ear, to understand what people are really saying, to sense the

 needs and commend others for their gifts and achievements.  Yet he recoiled

 at the sudden realization of an  unanswerable question now shouting irascibly

 in his inner each morning:

Who am I?

 Accruing more “stuff”, owning a Mcmansion, political power, community

visibility, loyalty to his shareholders, none of these now seem  important

in the ever encroaching  sunset years.

 Legacy –  so important in the recent past –now an empty shell  alone on the

 beach of a distant shore –orphaned  without a reflective  answer to  Who am I?

 

Turning out the corporate lights, engaging in an introspective life, loosening

the shackles of whatever inhibited him, my dear friend is taking the time,

making it his retirement quest to answer the question Who am I?

 Judith Rolfs has written  “Breathless: over 100 Minute Meditations For

Connecting Your Heart with God’s , or How Prayer Poetry Speaks

the Language of Angels (Kindle Edition):

 With her permission, I’d like to share the following:

                                                                Mysterious Life

                                                                Mysterious Life

                                                                How long shall it be?

                                                                For some it seems too lengthy.

                                                                   For some too short.

                                                  I’m glad You’re in charge, Lord of defining length

                                                                And giving occasional extensions.

                                                               Like the fifteen years

                                                                Faithful Hezekiah received.

                                                           Or cutting some lives short

                                                                Like haughty Herod.

                                                                Lord. How many years

                                                                Have you determined for me?

                                                                I promise not to rush their use,

                                                                But see each day as moments to be lived,

                                                                Embracing my challenges and pleasures

                                                                As I live fully this mysterious life

                                                                For as many years as You’ve designated

                                                                My body shall experience earthly life.

                                                                Psalm 92:13-15

 We will continue this discussion about retirement .  Your comments  and

experiences are as always, welcomed and cherished.